Oct 242013
 

What comes to mind when you think about relationships? Do you just look at the relationship you have with your partner? What about the relationships you have with your family and friends? How do you feel about those relationships? Do you look at the relationship you have with yourself?

Some of our most cherished moments as well as our most testing moments are with those we are in close relationship with. Often our relationships act as a mirror and teacher for us.

Quite often it is easy to get upset about what is happening in a relationship and blame the other person for the way it is or what is going on. Ultimately we are all responsible for ourselves, our behaviour and our actions. If someone pushes your buttons be grateful to them as they are showing you something within you that you need to look at.

The most important relationship in this life is the one you have with yourself. How do you treat yourself? Do you give yourself a hard time? Do you treat yourself as a lovable worthwhile person? With a positive attitude and a sense of humour you can learn greater self acceptance and develop a greater love of yourself. Once you believe in yourself and hold yourself in high regard others will too.

Why not start liking and appreciating yourself a little bit more starting today? Relationships may come and go however the relationship you have with yourself lasts forever. Love and appreciate you!

Oct 092013
 

We all have experiences – good, bad and indifferent.  Our experiences help to shape who we are.  We can all have the same experience yet we can all look at it differently.  Some experiences have a big impact on us and are never forgotten whilst other experiences happen and are easily forgotten.

Generally it is our reaction and feelings about an experience that determine whether we are negatively impacted by it. On the other hand you can have a wonderful experience and feel so happy that you are over the moon about it!  So often it is not so much the experience but the emotional reaction to the event that affects us.

Consciously you may be aware of experiences that you’ve previously had that you don’t feel great about even today.  You only have to think about them and uneasy or upset feelings come up.  On some level these feelings you still have can affect the choices you make and how you feel about yourself.

Take for example someone when they were a child had a near drowning experience in the pool and struggled to get their head above the water.  Every time this person even as an adult goes near deep water they feel anxious and fearful even though years have passed since the initial incident happened.

Everything we experience is recorded in our subconscious.  That is why I love Kinesiology as it can deal with the specific incident whenever it happened and release those negative emotions surrounding it so you are no longer holding onto those feelings.  So next time you think about the initial experience or you have a similar experience there are no unpleasant feelings that come up.   What’s more important you can start feeling even better within yourself!

Experiences shape who we are as people.  They help build our character, help define what we value and what we don’t and help build our compassion and understanding.  Most importantly they help us to grow and be the wonderful person we are today.

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